Being the best is super exhausting. It’s also fleeting.

Some of us have that DJ Khaled confidence to proclaim everything they do or love as “the best”, the rest of us live in a more suspended caution. We’re probably not the best, but we’re pretty damn okay. This space, the place of being okay, is about celebrating life in that perpetual okay-est state.

Let’s play with some anecdotes: If you’ve ever been to a soulcycle class, there’s always someone ridiculously good at it. Chances are, they’re front row, eight-pack on full display, unfazed by any speed the music requires them to pedal to. In your head, you’re like WHERE DID YOU COME FROM? There’s a mixture of envy, admiration and occasionally questions about your own sexuality that kind of washes over you as you evaluate your current state of being in a dark room attached to a bike. 

Mentally, you go one of two ways: One, you either quickly mentally figure out that you’re not as dedicated as said soulcycle god/dess and proclaim yourself as “okay at soulcycle” and continue along your merry way of cycling to the beat. Two, you mentally do a calculation of what sacrifices in your life you would need to make to become a soulcycle god/dess yourself and either commit to or decide you’re fine as is. 

Life is full of these experiences. Moms who spend months hammering out details for their kids’ birthday party. Friends who have extravagant flowers-cost-my-annual-salary weddings. Co-workers who show up looking like a beauty blogger no matter how early the meeting is. This space is not to knock the soulcycle god/dess, the DIY mom, the extravagant wedding friend or the beauty blogger co-worker, this space is recognizing that they spend that energy to get there, and you spent yours on something else worthwhile to you. I wanted to build this space because I enjoy the humor in the contrast of how we spend our energy. I think there’s joy and celebration in that diversity. This space celebrates us, the okay-est at things, without cutting anyone else down. But we’re also here in self-reflection and light-heartedness, to never take it too seriously.

To be fair, people who spend all their time and energy in those places may not be seeking to be the best, they may just be seeking to do something they love. 

I am a recovering bartender, recovering tech-employee and a proud resident of San Francisco. I’m a sarcastic wife, a loving dog-mom, obsessive boba-drinker and full-fledged bum. 

(There’s no disillusion here that the only people reading this is probably my friend & family, so hi!)

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